It's not just physical intimacy and action in bed that men desire from women. There is tonnes more they wish from us that may not be on top of a woman's mind. Smita Singh helps you peek into a man's mind and heart...
1) The Incredible lightness of being
With men, hands down this is going to top the list - a woman who lessens their chances of a heart attack, panic attack, nerve attack- you get the picture. Basically someone who is easy to be with, can take a joke and unwind with them, funny, light on the senses and bright.
2) Honest to Goodness
If you thought fidelity and loyalty are not concerns that bother men too much, be informed that Mars isn’t that mysterious a place. Integrity and honesty are as valuable to men as to us. Anyway, your basic honesty in dealing with men will more often than not get you through the toughest of times. And if you are contending to be with him for a lifetime, your ability to stay true to yourself as well as to him counts big time.
3) Emotional Independence
Well you may have heard about the victim who cried buckets and got her gentle lover to not only rescue but commit to her forever, but there’s a good chance it happened in a bad movie adaptation of an equally bad book because wet blankets tend to weigh down most men. Not that temperaments, mood swings and real issues can’t be adjusted to, but over emotional, clingy and needy need not apply just yet.
4) Lack of too much Mystery
Over mystifying the feminine mystique is a little out dated ladies. Women who are straight-forward and easy to get through are the most desired ones- notice the operative word ‘easy’ please. Don’t unnecessarily complicate the ‘simple stuff’ as men probably do realise when we play too hard to get.
5) The Anti-Nag
So he got the message - you left it in the voice mail, the e- mail, the social site inbox, on the fridge and that post- it on his forehead. You are not the one. Perhaps to quantify this one there’s just one phrase- The Anti - Nag. Those species of women who don’t drive the point home so hard so as to bury the message. So watch it all you naggers out there!
6) The Butterfly Effect
It’s not just women who want fireworks, men too seem to care about how the women they are with make them feel, out of bed especially. Sustaining the passion that got you together is equally important to men and springing good surprises once in a while is never out of fashion with most of them.
7) Strength of Confidence
We do want our partners to be able to take care when we fall apart, to take charge when we falter, just as we do for them. But to make it a habit of faltering, falling and leaving the mess for him to clear can prove very expensive. Your strength and confidence in your abilities are merits for you and him both, so cherish them and carry them with you always.
8) Love Express
So this one may be down in the list but don’t believe for a second your love doesn’t need to know you care. Take time to express your love every once in a while- it’s never wasted!
9) Your ability to take a Chance on him
Yes its true- your support counts and whether you like his ideas or not, he’s going ahead with it and if not he’ll probably resent you for a long time- so support for hare-brained ideas is a must for many. Congratulations if you are with a genius and good luck if you are with… well the other guy.
10) Generosity
Perhaps not too much with his money, but surely generosity of being, to forgive and forget, to have an open heart, and generosity with love matters. You can’t ever go wrong with this one and if you do, it will still help you become more magnificent than you already are.
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