Do you believe in an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth policy or are you the aficionado of Gandhigiri? Ramya Iyer asks five young women what's their approach - 'Forgive and forget' or 'Tit for Tat'. Here's what she unravelled
22-year-old Sandya Ragoowanshi from Mumbai firmly believes that a little bit of both is essential to survive in today’s world.
“Of course, there needs to be a balance. Also, what’s mean or magnanimous depends on the situation. Both paths can be equally hard and both could leave you with nothing. So whatever the choice may be, just be damn sure that you want to do it; leave no space for regrets.”
“One can catch more flies with a teaspoon of honey than a barrel full of vinegar”
Ruchika Beri, 25, from Mumbai leaves it to God for rebuke.
“I am a free spirit who believes in live and let live but at the same time I don’t like if someone trespasses my space. What goes around comes around. But I don’t just let-go. I verify intensity of the harm and then plot my plan on how to tackle it and teach a lesson.”
“Tit for tat works for small things. But for the bigger things in life, I just let it be”
24-year-old, Latika Payak also from Mumbai vouches for forgive and forget with a degree of difference.
“Forgive and forget is more like me for the long term. Who wants to carry a baggage for a lifetime? But if it’s an action that demands instant reaction, then I frequently visit the Tit for Tat bracket. I am not into making elaborate plans and waiting for the right time to even out the dues. I believe that Tit for Tat works for small things in life. For the bigger things in life, I just let it be. It’s not worth the effort. What’s done is done.”
“My style is to forgive but never forget.”
Neha Malude, 26, from Delhi believes that wrong doers should never be let off the hook.
“Sure, you can forgive him or her and move on because honestly I can’t hold a grudge for too long but never forget what they did to you. I am not a revengeful person so I would never plot something deliberately to get back at anyone, but if that person ever thinks about coming back to me for help (you know, what goes around comes around!) they should know what to expect.”
“If you let-go of someone who has been unjust to you, they will walk all over you.”
Pune’s 27-year-old Deepa Iyer vows never to let-it-be, after a certain turn of events.
“I have always been the ‘forgive and forget’ kinds, forgiving, understanding and tolerant. Recently, I have realised it doesn’t work at all. People just don’t appreciate your righteousness and walk all over you. After a recent breakup, I realised my ex took no time in hooking up with someone else. I had been very forgiving about his moral-slip ups and other gaffes for the three years of our relationship. Now that I was in control of my emotions, it was time to teach him a lesson. He is a model and all his contacts call him on his mobile. I just cut off his mobile number which was in my name. He was wedged in Mumbai with no address proof and hence no mobile number. So that was definitely his lesson for a life-time, never to mess with me.”
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